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First Date Success: It’s All In The Preparation
Dating can be stressful but first dates can be particularly painful and nerve wrecking. Follow my simple tips to getting ready for a date and before you know it you'll be breezing through first dates with you're only concern being what to wear on your second date. 1. Don't stress! First of all, try not to stress yourself out. Tell yourself, it's only a date and if it doesn't work out, so what? 2. Easy on the wedding plans You may laugh but don't start planning your wedding! We've all been there; dreaming that this could be the one, that you'll fall in love after a whirlwind romance and get married… and all before you've ordered your starter! Obviously, it's good to be positive but just take each day as it comes in the early stages otherwise you could be heading for disappointment. 3. Listen to music Listen to some music whilst you're getting ready; whatever gets you in the mood for a night out and relaxes you. 4. Soak in a bath If you have time, take a long soak in the bath with a small glass of wine to relax you. I emphasise the word "small"; you don't want to turn up drunk or smelling of alcohol. 5. Subtle make-up Girls, try to keep your make-up subtle. The majority of men don't like to see make-up caked on and if you do happen to snuggle up to your date, he won't be too impressed if you leave make-up on his collar. As a basic rule, if you're going for smoky eyes, keep your lips natural with a lick of gloss and if you're opting for the red Monroe pout then keep your eyes natural. 6. Hair to go You don't want a high maintenance hair style that has…
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3 Things That Can Save You When You Don’t Know What To Say
You are dating a beautiful but a shy girl or one that is not a talkie. You have already talked about your hobbies, your families and your jobs and nothing else come into your mind and she is not really helping you. 1. Compliment Her The fact is most people are shy about meeting new people. I used to be enormously shy. But when you think about it, shyness is merely a fear that others won't like you, or that you may be rejected in some way. It's natural for us to desire acceptance. So try to make her know that you like her by making a compliment. But find something that you really find attractive about her, about her lifestyle or her personality. She will become more confident and more open to share her believes and her shyness won’t be a problem for a fluid conversation. 2. Asking open questions How you ask questions is very important in establishing a basis for an effective communication. Effective questions open the door to knowledge and understanding. The art of questioning lies in knowing which questions to ask when. My favorites questions are "why" and "how" questions. You can use these frequently without being annoying. She will feel that you are interested in what she is telling you and will develop her answers. Therefore, you should think carefully before speaking and taking up subjects that might be repugnant to her. Take a look around. What's going on around you? At this point, the key is to find a topic, from which you can start a decent and light conversation. 3. Listen, listen, and listen Usually when the woman starts talking about her favorite subjects (feelings, family, relationships, friends and her work) many men lose interest or bring the conversation back to themselves.…
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Excuses People Make For Dating Failure
One of the most unfortunate truths in the dating world is that a disproportionately large number of single adults have actually given up on dating completely. Interestingly, some such people really have no concrete answer as to why this is. Others are readily able to come up with an excuse or two (or ten). Either way, it's tragic that so many people voluntarily choose a life without any chance of meeting a "significant other". My personal feeling is that just about any one of us walking this planet could theoretically join the throng of those who have thrown in the towel on dating. Each one of us could cite some excuse of our own and be done with it-after all, nobody's perfect. Yet there are plenty of people who experience wild success in the dating world despite their own subset of imperfections. The secret is figuring out what negative thoughts are theoretically limiting us and addressing them effectively. While there are an infinite number of reasons people can cite for dating failure, there's a definite "Top Ten List" of excuses people tend to cling to for dating failure. 1) Physical Limitations While it's always a great idea to be in the best shape one can and to make some effort with regard to one's appearance, it's shocking how many people cite a relatively minor physical imperfection and automatically assume nobody will be interested in dating them. Ironically, many of what we see as "limitations" may be "perfect imperfections" in the eyes of a beholder. 2) Advanced Age It's not uncommon to believe one is "too old" to date. Amazingly, this sentiment can present itself as early as 28 or 30 years of age for some people! Meanwhile, a simple look around shows that there are "newlyweds" of all ages out…
